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14 February 2008

In re: Valentines

The Rant:

>   As part of my anti-Valentine's day gig, I want to
>   remind you all that today is Frederick Douglass'
>   birthday.  Yes, the same Frederick Douglass that
>   appeared in your sixth grade English class in a
>   Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass, An
>   American Slave.  So, while ya'll are whimsically
>   enjoying candies and dinner and kisses and the like,
>   consider a moment of silence to reflect upon the
>   birth of one of the most influential figures in US
>   History.

Then...

Just before I head out on the anti-Valentine's Day pub tour, I visit my mom and dad.  My mom calls me shy.  My dad says I'm oblivious (and recounts how some non-cougar eyes were following me at church).  I say that I don't care.  I'm "single by choice," or so goes my cop-out, and besides "if I get married now, I'm just going to get screwed... royally" screams that jaded side of me, that won't give love a chance.

So, I remembered.  I can give, today.  And this I give to you: Obama for Valentine's Day...  sexy obama loves you too. [ via Hill and Bluntest ]

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I guess I'm not so good at this "bitter-anti-lover" thing either. I'll enjoy my yam fries and cherry wheat sam now.

13 February 2008

Here's the deal (3rd Grade Throwbacks)

Kristyn (who is getting married to Pat), sent along this Scattergories thing that I thought was mildly amusing and just a tad funny.  Kind of like a throw-back to 3rd grade.  The directions say that the whole thing is harder than it looks--and while that was true, I did kind of chuckle the whole way along.  Naughty or Nerdy?  Nipples or Nails?  You're supposed to answer the questions just like scattergories, using your first name.  And if there's one thing I realized, it is this: as much as I used to hate the letter "N" (it always seemed so annoying), I was really grateful for the shits and giggles the letter "N" was giving me.
 
1. What is your name:   Neal
2. 4 letter word:   Neat
3. Vehicle:  Nitro
4. City:  Notingham (UK)
5. Boy Name:  Noah
6. Girl Name:   Natasha
7. Alcoholic drink:  New Old-Fashioned (yummy bitters!)
8. Occupation:  Neurosurgeon
9. Something you wear:  Necktie
10. Celebrity:  Neil Diamond
11. Food:  Nachos
12. Something found in a bathroom: Nail Clippers
13. Reason for being late:  No Cabs at the Cab Stand
14. Cartoon Character:  Nemo
15. Something you shout:  Nice Ass!      
16. Animal:  Nightingale (Technically, a bird)
17. Body part:  Nails
18. Word to describe you:  Nerdy

12 February 2008

Cash-Only Dinner Dates

When I got word of my Giacomo's dinner date with the Boston consulting crew, I got all excited. "Giacomo's!" I thought.  Thoughts of the North End and cash only and wait staff edging on the side of abrasive flooded my head, and would be the only way to have it.  I also though, "Gosh, thank GOD!" because the last time I really went out to eat with out of town friends in Boston, I went to my age-old throwback: Pizzeria Regina in the North End (with Heather, but of course, it was totally appropriate!).

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Well, it turns out that my dinner date with Kevin and Stan was in the South End instead. But, I wasn't going to hate.  I needed to appreciate.  And I totally did.  Butternut Squash... wicked awesome.  Stan... wicked awesome.  Wait staff... totally expecting us to order dessert, and totally waiting to rush us out the door.  And the company, which I guess includes Stan and definitely includes Kevin, made me snort once -- about scantily clad 22-year old girls hitting up podunk bars in klan country, in the middle of winter, while at work orientation, thinking they're hitting up the club.

Bottom line: dinner was great.  We made it in and out before the 8pm rush (and, as Kevin put it, before "them g@ys all poured up with cologne took over the place." ha!).  And for once, in a really long time, it was really great to grab dinner when the rest of the city is grabbing dinner.  When dinner wasn't dine it.  When dinner wasn't crashing my mom and dad's place.  Or involved beleaguering my poor roomie with my bitch tales of lawyering and how I'm not cut out to do it until she is convinced to think twice about law school.

The only thing we should have done: closed out the place with a couple bottles of wine.

So I guess Giacomo's in the South End isn't so bad.  It'll do.

11 February 2008

When it's this cold outside

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The windchill in Boston this morning is something like negative 16 farenheit.  Brrrr.  This is totally what one would want to expect in Boston, though.  After all, what good would New England winters be (and all the lore around it, from something about Walden Pond to something about ski towns that want to secede from the States) without a couple of shots and blasts of Arctic cold?  And besides, it has been much too warm this winter, even though it's snowed a bit.  Winters back in the day were always colder and snowier... oh wait, I think that's my "bare foot walks in the snow uphill bothways" gene starting to kick in.

Seriously, though, crisp cold weather makes me daydream on the way to the bus stop.  I love breathing out of my mouth to try to form a little smokestack--a throw back to being 5 or 6 or so--and all the while, conjure up the warm, green thoughts of how distant and askew summer time and canobie lake rollercoasters and cranes beach seashores fade in my head.  The cold and the walk make me appreciate the MBTA bus when it shows up, even if it is late.  The walk in the cold makes me second think the whole iPod and sappy music thing because (a) the earphone chord seems to freeze on up, and (b) missy elliot and nelly furtado and other booty-shaking music works a lot better.

Snow's coming, too.  Snow.  And with that, the crisp cold bright sunny morning seems just perfect in my mind, because I know that tomorrow (or really the day after), I'll be hauling ass trying to shovel the longest driveway in Charlestown.  Yay!

03 February 2008

Eli Manning--Wha?! Wha?!?

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Errr, ummm, what just happened? I know, Notre Dame football blew this year, so I've been a hater when things have come to Patriot's football.  But wha???  TNY Giants win Superbowl XLII in a score of 17-14 over the New England Patriots. Quarterback Eli Manning was the game’s MVP but it was the Giant’s defense that really secured the win.  Ughhh.  I never win (and I didn't even get to do a keg stand at MW's Super Bowl partayyy).

02 February 2008

Doing Things Is What I Like To Do

I'm not bitter that I'm at work today.  No.  Not at all, especially with a Dunkin' Donuts ice coffee in my paw.  Yes!  Since I'm bitter (and yes, THE bitter minority--I'm proud of my nickname), I'm going to paste some more Hill Holiday/They Might Be Giants/Dunkin' Donuts goodness.  Enjoy your frickin' Saturday, s*ckers!

01 February 2008

A Month Back (and Charlestown Shots)

While on the bus this morning, I thought of two things:
(1) it's been a month since I've been back blogging, and gosh, it does feel good, because the frustrated writer inside of me -- the frustrated, creative person inside of me -- really loves to do this;
(2) I forgot how great it feels to find a photographer that you like, because the frustrated photographer inside of me -- the frustrated, creative person inside of me -- really loves to be surprised by surprising interesting photographs.

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What it means, I think, is that I need to write some more and I need to shoot photographs again.  And I need to write a note to a certain woman and her husband and child at the University of Utah, via Longmont, Colorado.  I need to _______.

[Photos via Alex Ward shot in Charlestown, Massachusetts]

31 January 2008

Errr another one down

They're going down like flies.  I literally just went to bed and woke up.  Damn.  So long, Rudy Giuliani.

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30 January 2008

Goodbye to You

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Well, well, another fallen soldier.  John Edwards says goodbye to his bid for the presidency.  I feel like a little bit of Michelle Branch should be playing in the background; the guitar strumming in the background ("[a]nd it hurts to want everything and nothing at the same time").  The word out on the street is that Edwards won't be endorsing either Hillary or Obama any time soon.  I wonder if his endorsement would make much of a dent in what is basically a two-person race for the Democratic nomination... just in time for Super Tuesday!

According to the Nation, in the Florida primary Clinton was at 50 percent. Obama was winning 33 percent. Former North Carolina Senator John Edwards was at 14 percent. And Dennis Kucinich, who is out of the race, pulled 1 percent.  But what I thought was interesting was what lay in those small Florida towns -- J.E. pulled 31% of the vote in those towns.  And even more weird, what J.E. demonstrated was that, with his "of the people" attitude and appeal, he could pull off a strong turnout in rural areas in states where he didn't even campaign.  So, what's to come of states like Oklahoma, Tennessee, Minnesota and those states with vast rural stretches? With J.E. saying aloha, it looks like the heat is off of Clinton in rural areas that aren’t exactly an urban base for Obama.  I like Obama/Edwards, but we'll see... we'll see...

29 January 2008

Yael Naim

Thanks to the latest Apple commercial, I have Yael Naim's single New Soul stuck in my head [related link: Yael Naim: Keep Listening].

Now, I'll get this song stuck in your head, too, courtesy of Imeem.com

28 January 2008

A SAGging Profession of Love

I'm having trouble watching the State of the Union address with my complete and undivided attention.  Something about being tired and "having ADD" and instead being distracted by some of the fotos from the 2008 Screen Actor Guild Awards.  Let me tell you, some hideous clothing and hairstyles draped the bodies of our friends in Hollywood.  But, some things don't change (completely).  That includes the eternal hotness of Jeremy Piven and Eva Longoria.

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I've professed my mancrush before (scroll down to 'Piven my Pivens').   I still haven't upgraded my Comcast package to include HBO, though.  That's too bad, since I'm missing all this Entourage.   

Ok, maybe I should pay attention to the SOTUA a bit more closely.  I'm a Government major for Christ's sake!

27 January 2008

Change is Inevitable II [In re: United States Gypsum Company]

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I went to the 6pm Mass Young Adult Mass at Saint Mary's with my parents, and sat up near the front with my mom and my dad.  I really didn't say much to my parents.  I happened to bump into them on the way to church as I rushed down Main Street, and with our coat collars up and wool hats pulled down near our ears, I abashedly asked my dad up what he was going to do.  So we talked, and there was a lot of "I think, I feel, I'll figure" it out type of conversation going on.  Finally, we happened upon the great granite and brick structure that is Saint Mary's, and felt obliged to walk in.  When we got to the pew, my dad commented on my shirt: "Varitek" he said.  Then my mom asked, with Filipino accent and all: "oh, why, honey, you're not cantoring tonight?"  I kind of shrugged it off.  It was the Third Sunday in Ordinary Time, and the first reading, from Isaiah chapter 8, verse 23 or so. 

Anguish has taken wing, dispelled is darkness:
for there is no gloom where but now there was distress.
The people who walked in darkness
have seen a great light;
upon those who dwelt in the land of gloom
a light has shone.

I let the reading sink in my head and the thoughts process the matrix of my mind.

Now there comes a time when you really do begin to worry about your parents.  I don't know if it's part of the natural life cycle or what, but it seems like, in the midst of weddings and engagements and pregnancies, talk of the parents is the next in line hot topic among my friends and my junior associate co-workers; we're either tackling the fact that some day, our parents will get old and die, or we're avoiding the topic because we're too scared to confront the change and the love-anguish associated with the idea.  I always thought I'd be long off from thinking about my parents in that way, and luckily, I think that's a far ways away still.  But somewhere admidst the homily and the Nicene Creed during Mass, I started thinking about the United States Gypsum Plant at the end of Terminal Street in Charlestown.  I really couldn't comprehend that USG was going to idle a good portion of the Boston plant come the end of March; that all these employees, who watched me and my siblings grow up, were being W.A.R.N.'d under the Workers Adjustment and Retraining Notification Act; that, even though all of these people survived USG's Chapter 11 reorganization and crazy USG company picnics at Canobie Lake and even crazier times working just beneath the Tobin Bridge, in an instant, they were all suddenly being let down and let off.  I'm sure, for some, this was like the miracle in the works waiting to happen.  And I can assure you -- there will be many a commuter who will be happy when they don't have to drive over the Tobin Bridge through the steam from the USG Plant's steam stacks. But I, I felt like a piece of me -- even though I didn't work at USG (my sister, though, worked in the lab all through undergraduate and graduate school summers) -- was dying off.  And I felt like, suddenly, I was worried about what my dad was going to do.

I'll always remember when I got into Notre Dame.  It was my birthday in 1999, and since I had been feeling a bit nauseous at school, I dodged my friends after seventh period, called in sick to work, and just went home (I didn't know, at the time, that I ended up missing my own surprise 18th birthday party).   I came home to find a thin letter from the ND Admissions office.  And so, you know how the urban legend goes "if the letter's thin, there's no way you're in."  Well, I eventually mustered up the courage to open the letter.  The rest is pretty much history, but I did call my dad and hiked down to Terminal Street to the USG plant to show him the letter.  And in lockstep Rudy style, I put on a green hard hat and walked through the USG plant with my dad.  "Little Neal's going to Notre Dame" he'd announce proudly.  And of course, all of the familiar, tired faces at USG lit up a bit -- whether congratulatory or a bit bitter -- and extended manly hands to shake my soft  adolescent paw.  I remember the way the fine dust from crushed gypsum rock felt with every shake; it dried the hands and crusted in the same way thin layers of overly diluted plaster crusts on the surface of a spackling spade.  I recall the tears that were in my dad's eyes when he read the letter at the front entrance of the plant.  And I'll always remember the thought I had standing there under the bright, orangish lights inside the factory: "thank you, USG, for helping our family pull through.  And thank you, USG, for making sure I didn't end up throwing cement bags for the rest of my life."

As with any good post, I guess I don't know where this is heading.  But what I do know is this: with the USG Plant idling along the shores of the Mystic River, another piece of middle America, industrial America as we know it in Greater Boston, will move into askew memories of an (industrial) time that once was.  Another opportunity for some middle-class, blue-collar, working-class family to live on the hope of getting ahead -- much like the family I was born and raised from -- and subsist on at least a half decent living, will ride away on the waves of what is, to many, a vibrant and transforming economy.  And with that, I'm left to wonder what else is left for the working-class folks of Greater Boston to do.  I wonder, with pause, what my dad will do.

26 January 2008

Mike's, Juno and HIPAA forms

What a great, lazy day.  Some people from Northwestern Mutual came to my house to interrogate me for life insurance stuff.  I napped.  I blogged.  I went to the gym.  And me and Jess took the Corolla up to Showcase Cinemas in Revere, saw Juno, and then came to Charlestown (stopping off, of course, at Mike's Roast Beef on Broadway).  Ok, I just sounded like a first grader writing a composition on "what did you do on Saturday?"

So, Juno was ok.  So were the chicken finger platters from Mike's.  But for some reason, the rerun of Saturday Night Live from October is friggin' hilarious!  I think the Amy Moehler skit with Bon Jovi started off a night of goodness.

Anyway, here's the quote of the day: "So, do you want me to sign you up a HIPAA form so I can release my sex records to you?"   ooops...

25 January 2008

In re: Addicted to House

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Alex, through his girlfriend, has got me addicted to House MD now.  I guess it's not surprising that I like another hospital-based or CSI-based TV show.  And I'm not surprised that I'm opting to stay in tonight and watch season one.  This has got to be the good side of the writer's strike: there's a lot of catch up to be done, so now, it's being done.

The House quip of the night came from Chase, the seminary school quip.  I guess it's not really his entirely; some of it comes from the Bible:

"I was in seminary school. They asked us once what our favorite passage was. I chose 1 Peter 1:7. 'These trials only test your faith to see whether or not it is strong and pure. Your faith is being tested as fire tests gold and purifies it.'"

24 January 2008

Grendel's Den (I KNEW I knew it from somewhere!)

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Jess and I trekked over to Harvard Square to meet up with Janine, Paula and Aaron for some late night snacks and well-deserved pints of Original Sin Cider.  Of course, we showed up at Grendel's Den (after parking on Church Street, the site of an apparent water main break), ready for some good, live college music.  Now, I've gone from lame to insane lately, so it was nice to just kind of chill and have one pint with a quesadilla, and have the singer/guitarplayers make fun of us a-la acoustic cafe, instead of molesting us a-la columbus ave karaoke.  Not that I'm hating, I'm just saying.  Plus, the eye candy was very gentle on the eyes.  Just saying there, too.

Now, what happens when you get a bunch of law school students, attorneys, and D.A. staff involved?  You remember that, in land use class, you've read something about Grendel's Den.  And you're right.  In 1982, Grendel's won an historic court case in the US Supreme Court, which enabled Grendel's to use their liquor license and changed existing laws in 9 states.  Read the decision by clicking here. [Larkin v. Grendel's Den, Inc., 459 U.S. 116 (1982)]

23 January 2008

Are you a "Seagull Manager?"

My assistant sent me the 2008 additions to the essential vocab works for the workplace.  Reminds me of a conversation I had with Alan when we were driving up to Madison, Wisconsin.  I just had to post.  I may just forward it, too...

1. BLAMESTORMING: Sitting around in a group, discussing why a deadline was missed or a project failed, and who was responsible.

2. SEAGULL MANAGER: A manager, who flies in, makes a lot of noise, craps on everything, and then leaves.

3. ASSMOSIS: The process by which some people seem to absorb success and advancement by kissing up to the boss rather than working hard

4. SALMON DAY: The experience of spending an entire day swimming upstream only to get screwed and die in the end.

5. CUBE FARM: An office filled with cubicles.

6. PRAIRIE DOGGING: When someone yells or drops something loudly in a cube farm, and people's heads pop up over the walls to see what's going on.

7. MOUSE POTATO: The on-line, wired generation's answer to the couch potato.

8. SITCOMs: Single Income, Two Children, Oppressive Mortgage. What Yuppies get into when they have children and one of them stops working to stay home with the kids.

9. STRESS PUPPY: A person who seems to thrive on being stressed out and whiny.

10. SWIPEOUT: An ATM or credit card that has been rendered useless because magnetic strip is worn away from extensive use.

11. XEROX SUBSIDY: Euphemism for swiping free photocopies from one's workplace.

12. IRRITAINMENT: Entertainment and media spectacles that are Annoying but you find yourself unable to stop watching them.

13. PERCUSSIVE MAINTENANCE: The fine art of whacking the crap out of an electronic device to get it to work again. Often feel like doing this to my comput er------

14. ADMINISPHERE: The rarefied organizational layers beginning just above the rank and file. Decisions that fall from the adminisphere are often profoundly inappropriate or irrelevant to the problems they were designed to solve.

15. 404: Someone who's clueless. From the World Wide Web error Message "404 Not Found," meaning that the requested site could not be located.

16. GENERICA: Features of the American landscape that are exactly the same no matter where one is, such as fast food joints, strip malls, and subdivisions.

17. OHNOSECOND: That minuscule fraction of time in which you realize that you've just made a BIG mistake. (Like after hitting send on an email by mistake).

18. WOOFS: Well-Off Older Folks.

22 January 2008

The Library of Congress Flickr Pilot

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Trucks outside of a starch factory, Caribou, Aroostook County, Me. There were almost fifty trucks in the line. Some had been waiting for twenty-four hours for the potatoes to be graded and weighed (LOC)

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Grand Grocery, Lincoln, Nebraska.

Who knew?  Now, you have an opportunity to contribute to describing the world’s public photo collection by adding tags or leaving comments on the 3100 or so photos from the Library of Congress. No known copyright restrictions on the photographs, the LOC’s use of Flickr is a brilliant idea.  And it's absolutely amazing seeing the 1930s-40s in color.  I just always think it happened in burnt sepia or black and white.

The Library of Congress' buddy icon Library of Congress Flickr pilot

21 January 2008

“Injustice Anywhere is a Threat to Justice Everywhere”

Yes, I am lifting from a Peter Lattman post on the WSJ Law Blog (you should go read it here).  But as today is MLK Day (observed), let's skip the hooplah and cut to the chase:

Here are a few MLK, Jr. legal gems, courtesy of the “Yale Book of Quotations” by Yale Law librarian Fred Shapiro:

Government action is not the whole answer to the present crisis, but it is an important partial answer. Morals cannot be legislated, but behavior can be regulated. The law cannot make an employer love me, but it can keep him from refusing to hire me because of the color of my skin.

Stride Toward Freedom: The Montgomery Story, ch. II (1958)

Judicial decrees may not change the heart; but they can restrain the heartless.

– Speech, Nashville, Tenn., 27 Dec. 1962

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.

– “Letter from Birmingham Jail,” 16 Apr. 1963

20 January 2008

In re: Relaxing

I'm just a is just a lazy, idle, lemon-poppy-seed muffin lovin' iripino today.  I could really use some warm weather and surfing right now and just hanging out for about 10 days or so.  Awhhhh (relaxed, refreshing awhhhh).

19 January 2008

I'm just a young, single male (and totally available)

Could the reason why I'm not following lock step with some of my friends and contemporaries is that I'm an unsophisticated bachelor?  Well, the Wall Street Journal's got some words for me.  Actually, I'm a little scared.  Maybe I should go ahead and buy a house, dismiss dreams of being artistic and creative, work even harder, get married and have 3 kids and work even harder, and wake up -- after I forgot I existed for 30 or so years -- to find out I'm 56.

That wasn't a bitter rant, was it?

Read on: "Young Single Male" is Urged to Grow Up" on The Informed Reader Blog brought to us by the folks at Dow Jones and the Wall Street Journal.

18 January 2008

Change is Inevitable [In re: St. Catherine of Siena Parish, Charlestown]

I've been swallowing a pill that I knew was coming and have spent the past five years or so avoiding: St. Catherine's closing.  There are tons of pros, tons of cons, tons of opinions and tons of facts.  And I don't mean this post to really get into any real, in depth analysis of any of those things. 

What I wanted to get off my back, though, was that I'm hurting a bit over it.  Nothing to be worried about; no need for suicide watch.  But over the past week, I've been in a really pensive, deliberating, nostalgic mood.  To sum it up, it's been downright sucky. And it's all-in-all, a personal coming-to-accept-it experience.  It prompted dinner with Natalie, Carrie, Geoff and Amelia, but dissuaded me from attending any of those "info" meetings.  I can handle numbers and logistics, so when I need them, I'll turn to them, I thought.  The personal truth in this all is that St. Catherine's is home for me in a number of ways: coming of age experiences, believing in faith experiences, friends, family, love.  At the same time, I know that, but consolidating a worshipping spot into one church building, the whole community will benefit in the long run (the whole John-esque gathering/communion experience). 

What I'm experiencing, though, is what happens when you've stocked so much in the material place: you leave yourself open to being let down.  This isn't new, but as it relates to Charlestown, I think me, personally, I let this whole gentrification thing get wrapped up in the personal and the emotional and the nostalgia -- the wants, the needs, the feelings, the longings.  I think I knew it when the Boys' and Girls' Club did the whole Piece of Peace book back in the 90s. [Related link: 9 Lexington Street]  And now, Karl Rhaner and the wisdom and lessons from undergraduate catholic philo classes becomes useful again.  I'll use Nicole's Song [by Virginia Coalition] to get through the thinking, I guess.

So now I've been forced to give advice/
On a matter in which now I've become involved/
Should I stop my thoughts and close my eyes/
Play the lover's role in the beggar's disguise/
And beg God to give me/
Solomon's wisdom

In the midst of this, my brother Sean contributed a decent piece to the January 17, 2008 edition of the Charlestown Patriot-Bridge, which I'll just copy and paste here:

The Spirit of St. Catherine's
By Sean Boyle

To the people of the one-square mile that we know and love: In February, my church, Saint Catherine of Siena, will close.

When our ancestors emigrated from Ireland and other countries, they found it hard to be accepted. In storefronts, there were signs that read “No Irish need apply,” and riots broke out, one of which led to the burning of the Ursuline Convent in Charlestown. But our ancestors made Charlestown their home, street by street, house by house. This became our town, where we celebrated our culture, spoke our native tongue and created everlasting traditions. Charlestown was home to the second Catholic church in all of Massachusetts, Saint Mary’s. When our ancestors came here, the only thing they had that kept them going was their faith. It was the only thing in America that they could claim was theirs. As years went on, we built three vibrant Catholic parishes, we had a tight-knit community, traditions that would hopefully never end and our own unique culture in America and Boston.

But as 2008 arrived, I realized that traditions are disappearing, culture is being lost and that once tight-knit community is breaking and now forming a committed community made up of old and new residents. I am not old enough to remember the “old” Charlestown, but I hear stories about it all the time — stories of when the Bunker Hill Day Parade was the biggest day for Charlestown, with parties in every house and everyone filled with pride and happiness. Now, on the beloved parade days, I see fewer parties, fewer American flags waving in the crowd and streets that barely have any spectators. I hear stories of mothers, 400 deep, praying the rosary on Bunker Hill Street and marching against forced busing, marching for the love of their children and a cause that was worth fighting for in their eyes. I hear stories of the whole town watching Charlestown High’s football games, how Charlestown had the most pubs and sent the most people to World War II than any other one square-mile town in America. Other stories tell of looping, the Charlestown Rose, Ancient Orders of Hibernia, the Knights of Columbus, funeral marches with Irish women wailing, Saint Catherine’s “little Townies color guard,” mothers sitting on the stoop, CYO meets, stores and pubs that are gone, stories of the Bunker Hill Hillbillies and the Majestic Knights, tournaments and memorial services and, most of all, packed Masses.

When I was in eighth grade, I started an organization called FACES – Fill A Church Every Sunday. This was when Saint Catherine of Siena Parish was supposed to close (before it merged with Saint Mary’s). I was desperate and I wanted to save my parish, my church and my faith. I went from door to door in Charlestown; I got doors slammed in my face by people whom I knew, people who did not bother to answer and others that really did not care about church. I asked people to come to church and told them that my goal was to invite people to church and have them invite other people in order to fill a pew and, eventually, a church. I told them the Mass schedules at Saint Francis de Sales, Saint Mary’s and Saint Catherine of Siena. People used excuses such as: “I have a hockey game to go to,” “It is too far,” “I don’t have time,” “It is boring” and “I have to watch my television show.” My argument was all the hours of the Masses were spread over different hours of both Saturday and Sunday, so maybe you can make time. “Why can’t people spend an hour with God?” I thought to myself. I eventually gave up and lost hope. I was sad because this was a tradition that had been going on in the world for 2,000 years, a symbol of hope for our ancestors when they came here. This was our ancestors’ blood and sweat being thrown out the window.

I yearn for that old sense of community. I yearn for that tight-knit community, I yearn for those disappearing traditions, and I yearn for the culture we bestow upon ourselves. How can a shamrock be the town’s symbol when no one goes to church anymore? Do people forget what the shamrock symbolizes? Do people know why they’re wearing a Townie sweater with a big shamrock on it? Well, if you’ve forgotten what it symbolizes, here it is: Saint Patrick used the shamrock to show the Irish the sacred Trinity, three in one, one in three. The shamrock will be a tradition that will live on forever and a sacred symbol that represents Ireland and our faith.

To the People of Charlestown: WAKE UP! We are losing traditions and culture that we created and fought for. New traditions are being created, which I hope never die. But we must keep our old traditions going and teach them to future generations and future neighbors, because without the memory of the past, we are nothing. Traditions, such as passing a church or hearing an ambulance and then making the sign of the cross, hearing the church bells ring and not complaining or even simply going to church, are essential. These traditions are what make us who we are, a people who lived here for generations, a people who have just moved here, a people often misunderstood and put down, a people who fight for what they believe in, a people who have strong traditions and a historic past, a people who call themselves Townies and a people who live in a diverse, vibrant, urban and tight-knit community. We (old and new residents) know what it means to be from Charlestown. There is always a sense of pride and comfort in your heart. But we need to keep traditions going — keep the faith, keep the community and keep our culture, as well as share it.

As much as I do not want Saint Catherine’s to close, as much as I want to fight to keep it open, I know it is for the better. I am grateful for memories like Fr. Coyne’s Charlie Brown robes, midnight and six o’clock masses, CYO meets, shows and all the memories from Charlestown Catholic. I hope that I am able to raise my children in a town with never-ending traditions, with the people whom I knew when I was growing up and the new residents, and that sense of a tight-knit, diverse and unique community. I invite you all to attend mass at either St. Mary-Saint Catherine of Siena churches or Saint Francis de Sales Church. I invite you, Charlestown – both old and new residents, to keep the tradition of going to Mass alive. I invite you to keep other traditions alive and even though our neighborhood is changing before our eyes – to give new neighbors a warm welcome to “God’s country” and pass/share our traditions on to them.

I extend a warm welcome to the people of Charlestown to celebrate the last Mass of Saint Catherine of Siena Church on Feb. 10 at 11 a.m. (There will only be one mass for Saint Mary-Saint Catherine of Siena Parish on that Sunday). Join the people of Saint Catherine’s in tears, laughter and hopefulness, even if you are from a different church. I hope that through out the years the “spirit of Saint Catherine’s” will live on forever in this town. I also hope that more people keep the tradition of celebrating the Eucharist alive. Let us be united in Christ and united in Charlestown, and let us show our ancestors that we did not give up on the faith they once had.

Sean Boyle is a 16-years-old Charlestown native, and a  junior at Boston College High School.

So where does this leave us?  I'll quip from Meredith Grey's clichéd narration at the end of the season premiere of Grey's Anatomy:  Change.  We don't like it.  We fear it.  But we can't stop it from coming.  We either adapt to change or we get left behind. ... It hurts to grow.  Anyone who tells you it doesn't is lying.  But here is the truth: sometimes, the more things change, the more they stay the same.  Sometimes, change is good.  Sometimes, change is everything.

17 January 2008

I Hate Being "Pregnant"

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I can't explain what happened last night.  Well, I can, but that would be no fun.  You'll have to see me to find out what happened on the Wednesday night pub crawl that started at Silvertone, landed us at Beantown, and eventually, well, see the 12:15AM post.  Somewhere in between, we actually watched American Idol, too.  Maybe that's where I decided to throw in the towel and get wasted!

I have to proclaim: I'm really not used to going out on weeknights anymore.  I never thought I'd say that, but I guess, I guess I actually am having a mature relationship with alcohol now.  There's another explanation, though: after law school, I let the lame gene kick in and would chronically miss happy hour, intentionally, unintentionally, even sometimes against my will.  I replaced Men's Club at Sully's with Pirate's Booty and Grey's Anatomy.  I swapped Hong Kong and teriyaki strips with Boston Sports Club and MetRX protein shakes. 

Anyway, last night was crazy beyond all imaginable proportions.  Lots of drama went down.  I can tell you that the next 18 months will be lots of fun.  It's funny how the scenic view at bars gets better with alcohol, along with my propensity to just keep on talking, keep on playing, keep on drinking.  Let's use facebook and people's wall posts from facebook to tell a story:

[Pediatric Resident] wrote
at 12:15am on January 17th, 2008
Why aren't you at cluib cafea wit us! Me and [Rum-n-Cokes] miss yous!

[fluffy]
wrote
at 10:28am on January 17th, 2008
umm... life = terrifying right now

[60657] wrote
at 10:30am on January 17th, 2008
just got your message....lol.  thanks for the b-day wishes.  :)  how you feelin this morning?  =p

[60657] wrote
at 10:31am on January 17th, 2008
lol....i love the message on [Pediatric Resident]'s wall. 
drink some gatorade, [fluffy].  =p

[Pediatric Resident] wrote
at 11:14am on January 17th, 2008
thank god for apple juice!
 
[Pediatric Resident] wrote
at 11:20am on January 17th, 2008
you mean you're not pregnant too?

[Rum-n-Cokes] wrote
at 4:56pm on January 17th, 2008
morning sickness sucks

[Pediatric Resident] wrote
at 6:02pm on January 17th, 2008
The fetus kicking inside of me is making me sick, clearly...

16 January 2008

Neighborly Drama

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Jess shoveled out my parking spot after the storm.  And she shoveled out the driveway with my neighbors (the yuppie neighbors turned out to be nice).  She also scraped up the dog shit from the random dog that was shitting all around my Corolla and in my parking spot. 

My plan was to put coffee grinds all around my car to teach the dog -- and the owner -- a nice lesson.  I mean, come on now, there's tons of reasons for why I don't have a dog.  The primary reason happens to be this: I can't stand (the thought or the act) of taking my Wall Street Journal bag and pick that shit up.  Now, I guess that presupposes that I would be a considerate dog owner and pick up after my dog.  Well, it peeved me even more that one of my neighbors was purposefully, in a purpose-doing way, bringing their dog down to shit next to my car so that I could step in it when I jumped out of the driver's seat.  What embarrasses me a bit more is that I was so quick to put all the blame, all the sinister motivation, upon the neighbor that's caused all the drama.  This would be my chance to inflict, not payback, but yes, getting even...

Well, I was wrong.  Not "them."  This is my confession. There.

Now their yippy chocolate yorkshire terrier, Lola, can live.

Freak them!

15 January 2008

The Bad Gift Emporium

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We had the "bad gift" raffle at work today.  Basically, everyone brings in gifts that they did not particularly like receiving over the Christmas/holiday season, and it gets raffled off for charity. I ended up with Goldie Retriever from Kits n' Kaboodle.  Now, I never win anything.  How timely it is that I end up winning a microwaveable neck wrap.  Jess and I are bound to have fun freaking each other out with this thing as we watch House and Grey's.  Here's what this thing can help me out with

- Cramps
- Neck and Shoulder Ache
- Hand Pain
- Migraine(frozen)
- Hot Flashes(frozen)
- Engorged Breasts

I have problems with the last one.  Procrastination.  See
http://www.badgiftemporium.com/

14 January 2008

In re: "Boston's Lame"

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Another night out with the K-Rome (not to be confused with K-Ro), a/k/a "Keesha," and more "Hey Girl Hey" rattling through my head than my head can handle.  Dallas lost and the Giants won.  The Pats won... again.  There's a snowstorm... again, but it was a sucky and lame snow storm at best up here in Boston.  Anyway, while I'm feeling the heat of "morning sickness" because I'm "pregnant," I totally forgot what I was going to say (aside that I am not looking forward to shoveling my driveway when I get home tonight).  So here, enjoy (via urban dictionary):

1:Hey girl hey
2:Heyyy, what's up?
1:Nothing much
2:That's cool
1:Hey girl hey, I'm gonna go... HEY GIRL HEYYY

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13 January 2008

Ode to Them

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When my sister was back home in Massachusetts over the Christmas holiday, I told her that, for some odd reason, I felt like I didn't have any good pictures of mom and dad just together.  Sure, I had graduation pictures and party pictures.  But you know how, you know how your dad (or my dad) seems to always wear a blue shirt -- almost indicative of being a USG, blue collar, steadfast kind of guy -- and has the same half smile half discerning look that you grew used to seeing as you tumbled down the stairs in the morning (half awake, of course)?  And you know how, you know how your mom (or my mom) seems to always have the permanent smile -- whether something's wrong or something's right -- and can imagine, even hear, every time you look at her that sort of filipino accent?  Well, maybe you would, or maybe you can't, but my sister did.  I didn't have any of "those pictures," and I desperately wanted one to put in a frame in my office.

So, my sister emailed me this awesome picture that her fiance took of my parents out in Seattle.  I think it's perfect.  I think they look so good in the Pacific Northwest.  And I think, even after all of these years of marriage, that they still totally love each other.  And I do love them.  And I thank them for loving me.

12 January 2008

America Runs on Dunkin (Round 3 starts now)

My mouth can't form these words...

So I totally got screwed out of Patriots' tickets.  I totally got screwed out of a Christmas grab present.  And I totally got screwed out of a free coffee at Dunkin Donuts.  But I can't hate on the last one, and it won't make it to the Bitch List compilation that will come out at the end of 2008. 

Between my undying loyalty to Dunkins and my unfettered love for Dunkin's commercials [like  Bleachers ("I'm freezing at peewee hockey"), or Fritalian ("My mouth can't form these words"), and yes, all tracked to They Must Be Giants courtesy of Hill Holiday] and the entire "America Runs on Dunkin advertising campaign," I come upon upon an epi[/MESSAGE CLIPPED/]


Are They Might Be Giants 'freezing at Pee Wee hockey?' We're pretty sure. [via: AdvertisingAge]

11 January 2008

When you have a "I Hate My Job" day... Try out an Urban Legend

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My little buddy K-Ro down in NYC sensed that I, we, me (among others) were having the "we're 26 and having the January blues... boy, only being able to afford Natty Lite seems like a great position in which to be" mode.  So, what I better suggestion than to try an urban legend and see if it works:

On your way home from work, stop at your pharmacy and go to the thermometer section and purchase a rectal thermometer made by Johnson & Johnson.  Be very sure you get this brand. When you get home, lock your doors, draw the curtains and disconnect the phone so you will not be disturbed.

Change into very comfortable clothing and sit in your favorite chair. Open the package and remove the thermometer. Now, carefully place it on a table or a surface so that it will not become chipped or broken.Now the fun part begins Take out the literature from the box and read it carefully.

You will notice that in small print there is a statement:"Every Rectal Thermometer made by Johnson & Johnson is personally tested and then sanitized."  Now, close your eyes and repeat out loud five times, "I am so glad I do not work in the thermometer quality control department at Johnson & Johnson."

"Have a nice day and remember, there is always someone else with a job that is more of a pain in the ass than yours!"  '

Ok, that was cheesy.  But it's the weekend, kinda, sorta!

10 January 2008

In re: Tapeworm

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This whole stomach virus thing is getting old.  Really old.  I want nothing more but to eat a nice chicken parmesan sandwich right now, but alas, when you can barely hold down chicken broth and rice, let alone crackers and gatorade, eating a chicken parm sandwich clearly does not appear to be on the reality list. 

What I really should do is go to the doctor, because what if I have Cysticercosis, i.e., tapeworm?  That's what I thought about on the bus this morning.  Yucky tapeworm.  Slimy tapeworm.  Tapeworm on House.  Yeah, little little tapeworm inside little Neal's body would suck really really badly, in no little way whatsoever. (Indeed, the only thing that would probably suck worse than that would be a nice, little 59-foot tapeworm inside of meee!).  But after I researched tapeworm a little bit on WebMD and Wikipedia, I definitely just decided that (a) I just undiagosed myself of tapeworm, (b) I just lost any thoughts of food because of tapeworm, (c) I just don't understand why there are some crazy people out there who purposely want to get tapeworm, and (d) I just really really really REALLY hope, wish, pray, and TOTALLY DO NOT WANT a tapeworm.

That said, yes, I should go to the doctor.  But, billable hours need to be billed.  So there.  Muerte le tapeworm!

09 January 2008

Vive le Flash's

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I love this place, even though, in the scheme of things Boston, Flash's is relatively new.  Says some random dude on the internet: "This staff will show you a great time! The food is simple but hits the spot. Lots of cool, pretty people hang out here. Great for going out alone, or with big groups. Funky drink lists will send you in the right direction."  The dude's totally right... and, like any great neighborhood bar in Nealski's playbook, nostalgia and memories of all types abound with this place.  Janine and I used to grab lunch here all the time when she worked at H&K.  I used to love getting their pizza hamburger whenever it was on special, or hang out here during long breaks in between law school classes and enjoy a nice Harpoon UFO, especially in the springtime when they open the windows to Columbus Ave.  Delish!

Of course, with Kevin's arrival in Beantown, it meant me, roomie and fluffy had to go... on a Wednesday night!  It really only began a whole night of debauchery.  Here's to no longer being lame (for the time being!)

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08 January 2008

The Bitch List

Reason to Bitch #1: I definitely was not planning on staying at work this late.  But whatever, I should be happy I have a job, right?

Reason to Bitch #2: I still can't hold down food.  Uughhh.  I am hungry and tired, and did I mention, yeah, I was at work way longer than I want to be tonight.

Reason to Bitch #3: Weddings. Weddings. And more weddings. Everyone's getting married, and I should be happy, but people, wtf is going on? Everyone's getting married in 2008! There's only so many weekends in a year!

Reason to Bitch #4: I never got to go to New Hampshahhh.  Booo.  Oh, and did I mention, yeah, I was totally at work for 17 hours today.  And I'm tired.  And I'm hungry.

Reason to Bitch $5: Having "a mind conservative and a heart liberal." Unfortunately, that typifies me... and that person... word.

07 January 2008

This is Why I'm Hot

No, I'm not the rapper Mims.  But it seems like the second Kevin got to Boston, things started to get all hot up up around here in New England.  Now, I'm used to a nice little thaw at the end of January (or was reminded of it by Kevin Lemanowicz, Chief Meteorologist at Fox 25 News), but this is kind of crazy.  When I was hanging out with Kevin in the South End, I was out and about in a sweatshirt and jeans.  It's January people.  It's supposed to be wicked wicked cold in Boston right about now!  I should not be wearing crocks without socks!

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Then, there's the New Hampshire primaries.  My near and dear friend Crystal is working the Obama campaign up in New Hampshahhh, and my near and dear friend Shane is working the Romney campaign, so I feel like, between Facebook and random text messages and spur of the moment blog updates, I'm right up there in the middle of the action.  The whole presidential campaign thing continues to get me all excited this year.  Perhaps the reason happens to be that both parties -- Democrats and Republicans -- don't have a clear front runner yet.  Perhaps the reason happens to be that each of the candidates, regardless of the party affiliation, happens to have a some sort of depth, a whole lot of quirks, and a bit of admirable conviction.  Perhaps the reason happens to be that I'm stuck somewhere in between Obama and Mitt (but people know where I'll be voting), somewhere between hopeful and jaded, somewhere between being really young and naive and getting old and stuck and stubborn in my ways.  Whatever the reason, things continue to stir up in New Hampshire.  Politics are getting fun again.  And the commercials -- yes, because Boston is right on the cusp on New Hampshire, we get all of the crazy pitches from each of the candidates, trying to woo voters between segments of a really lopsided LSU/Ohio State game (go Buckeyes!), the rebirth of American Gladiators (Go Helga!), and yet another rerun of How I Met Your Mother (Go... Go) [/ALT LINK/CBS Corporation site].